Update to the FINAL UPDATE: AITAH for telling my lesbian ex-wife that her partner cannot be my son's mom.

Hi all,

Weirdly enough, I thought the last post was the final update, but a few weird things have happened. My son was with my ex for the last week, and came back to me yesterday. I wanted to write this update because people have been very helpful although I did get some hate messages in DM's (ig this is typical after posting online).

Things have cooled down in the last few days and so have I. Me and my girlfriend decided to get out of the city for a few days when my son was with his mom and it's been really healthy for the both of us. Yesterday when she dropped my son off, we had a little talk, She apologised and told me that she will not force our son to do anything. She then told me that she is sorry for trying to convince me for adoption and that she will not do it again. I said fine and told her that it was a stupid idea in the first place. She then told me that she had news and that they are planning to adopt a child, since they really needed a complete family and that I should not forced to give up my son. She sounded a little condescending while she said that but I didn't go after it too much. I said "whatever makes you two happy". She then told me that after they adopt a baby, she wanted to revisit the custody agreement, since she will have to make time for the new baby as well. She also told me that they have decided that her wife will be hands-off with my son and won't try and put herself in the role of a parent. I told her okay and that it's probably for the best since he already has parents.

My son also told me that his mom told him that he might have a sibling very soon. He said that he was excited at the idea.

Personally, I don't think it's bad either as long as they don't try to push me out of my son's life.

Here's where I am a bit conflicted. She told me that she wanted to revisit the custody agreement in the future. I am worried since they couldn't adopt my son they are now trying to adopt a baby, this seems to me like a weird solution to a weird problem. Revisiting the custody agreement so soon after we had a fight over adoption seems extremely weird to me and this has been a very strange turn of events. If they could adopt in the first place then why put me through all that? I genuinely don't know how to react to this now. I don't know if revisiting the custody agreement is a good idea or not? I know I should be happy at the prospect of having more time with my son but don't know what to do now.

Edit She didn’t put anything in legally right now but she has told me what she wanted. She wanted them to switch from a 50-50 to 75-25, where she wanted him for a week in a month. It was all hypothetical so I don’t know whether or not to take it with a grain of salt.