Delicate question: if a man says he feels powerful if his cum gets swallowed and insists that it’s not degrading, isn’t this gaslighting?

I came across some subreddits where men claim that they like when a bj is finished in her mouth and they explain that it makes them feel powerful. But every time when I respond well but if you want to have power over another person by a certain act, it also means that you will then feel superior and that logically implies degradation. In the sense of the word. The person who is used to get that sense of power is not on the same level. Same as if I feel powerful by for example spitting in someone’s face even if he says he is ok with that! The example is not that far away from jerking off in someone’s mouth. But whenever I mention that they call me a misandrist.

How do you feel about that, ladies? I feel it’s like they are gaslighting women about the meaning of the act…