I can’t tell if my therapist is treating me badly?

One of the results of being neglected as a child is that I stay in relationships without realizing I’m not getting what I need. I was abused in the past by a therapist which makes it really hard for me to trust. I’ve been working with this therapist for the past 1.5 years but still having a hard time fully trusting him. He’s highly regarded as far as I can tell.

Today I opened up the session talking about my dad acting shitty and not supporting me and not caring about me. He tried to reflect what I was saying back at me but he wasn’t getting it quite right which I said to him and tried to explain it again a few times. He then said “every time you talk about something painful you get mad at me” with this edge to his voice like he’s pissed at me which I pointed out. He’s not happy I pointed that out and talks about how he gets agitated when I tell him he doesn’t understand me. He basically starts going on about transference and how I’m acting towards him like I want to act towards my dad and I’m bawling and just asking him to stop talking about transference and give me a little empathy, which he refuses to do. Then the sessions ends and he skips off and leaves me bawling.

After the session he texted me - “I don’t know what to say exactly but wanted to express that I did hear you during the session and I don’t think the entirety of what you are feeling is about someone else. I don’t think I did the best job of making space for that to coexist with the other stuff. There are difficult feelings coming up that are hard to hold and contain. I’m still here and acknowledge that my tone of voice and words aren’t always what you or I would like them to be. Just wanted to say that since we won’t be seeing each other until next week. I hope you have a good week.”

I’m not okay with what happened and I feel abandoned and I really don’t like the way he treated me and got upset with me for having negative feelings towards him. Ironically we’ve been talking about trust and he’s been trying to convince me I can rely on him. Am I overreacting? Underreacting? I genuinely can’t tell. Fwiw we had a prior incident before where he got upset at me preemptively because he thought I was gonna be mad at him about something.