How to perceive women as normal people?

I've noticed that when talking to women, I find it hard to treat them the same as men. I feel anxious, I try to be overly polite, I see them as potential romantic partners. I think it might stem from negative past experiences and being bullied.

Some advice I've seen includes:

• Realise they're just human beings.
• Stop seeing them as someone "different" or "other".
• Focus on common interests.

However, while I can recognize these as valid on a logical level, it hasn't been enough to override my subconscious thoughts that women are different. It's almost like it's coded into my brain. I feel this I need to somehow profoundly, and with great effort, rewire or override my belief structure which has formed over my life.

Has anyone else felt this way and found effective ways to change this mindset? Any insights would be greatly appreciated.