The Daily Check-In for Wednesday, June 26th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking!
We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we're here together!
Welcome to the 24 hour pledge!
I'm pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.
Maybe you're new to /r/stopdrinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you're like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you've been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.
It doesn't matter if you're still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, lets not drink alcohol!
This pledge is a statement of intent. Today we don't set out trying not to drink, we make a conscious decision not to drink. It sounds simple, but all of us know it can be hard and sometimes impossible. The group can support and inspire us, yet only one person can decide if we drink today. Give that person the right mindset!
What happens if we can't keep to our pledge? We give up or try again. And since we're here in /r/stopdrinking, we're not ready to give up.
What this is: A simple thread where we commit to not drinking alcohol for the next 24 hours, posting to show others that they're not alone and making a pledge to ourselves. Anybody can join and participate at any time, you do not have to be a regular at /r/stopdrinking or have followed the pledges from the beginning.
What this isn't: A good place for a detailed introduction of yourself, directly seek advice or share lengthy stories. You'll get a more personal response in your own thread.
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts on surrendering yesterday. Actually, I wanted to answer to more of the comments, but I had to surrender at some point, because there were too many (pun intended ;-).
Anyhow, today I chose a very sensitive topic, that was mentioned on this week’s threads before:
Guilt and remorse
I am sure most of us have done some stupid shit we are not proud of in active addiction. I sure did a lot of stuff, a sane person would never do. I don´t want to go into detail, but I was lying, stealing, driving drunk, escaping from an ER barefoot, kicking my own door in, just to name a few.
Question: How do you deal with your guilt and remorse from your drinking days? Can you accept it? Can you put it behind you? Do your shift your perspective? How? Did you try to make amends? I am very curious about your opinions!
I deal with it by (barely) tolerating some of it. It is not acceptance yet, there is still a long way to go for me. At some point I stopped apologizing, because my apologies after a bender didn´t mean shit. Today I try to be my best self for me and those around me, and somehow it works. Trust from the people around me is coming back, and that, for me is the greatest remedy for guilt and remorse. This is only possible, when I am sober. That´s why…
I WILL NOT DRINK WITH YOU TODAY!
Tortey